What is it that makes some people more resilient than others? Here are a few factors that seem to play a part:
- They are realistic. They see things for what they are. They accept that bad things happen. They are aware of what’s going on both within and around them, and understand that setbacks are a part of life.
- They are optimistic. They know it’s perfectly valid to see the glass as half empty, but they make a conscious choice to see it as half full. They maintain awareness of the negative, but focus on the positive.
- They are problem solvers. When life gets tough, they focus on what they can do to make it better. They don’t get caught up in placing blame or finding fault. They look for solutions.
- They forgive. They let go of useless anger and resentment, allowing hope and purpose to fill them instead. They look to the future rather than dwelling on the past.
- They use their supports. The most resilient people don’t try to tackle life’s problems alone. They reach out and gather as much help as they can, including friends and professionals who can help them talk things out.
- They have faith. They believe that things happen the way they’re supposed to. They accept life’s difficulties with the belief that there is a higher power to help get them through. They look for meaning in their struggles, and identify ways that their struggles have made them stronger.
Becoming resilient is a work in progress for me. There have been times in my life when I faced horrible adversity and breezed through with almost no problem, and there have been other times when life wasn’t so bad, yet I struggled tremendously. Other people’s stories of resilience have taught me that there is nothing in life a person can’t work through and come out stronger. Those are the people I want to emulate so that I can become stronger and more resilient over time, regardless of the mountains I may have to climb or raging rivers I might cross. What about you?